Monday Morning Pages: Friendship

by Rebecca A. Watson on January 20, 2014

in friends, Monday Morning Pages, relationships

This past week my friend Amy sent me a text during German class.

“Call me when you get outta class.”

I looked at it and knew what was coming. I’d like to say it was because I’m psychic, but Sante had already sent me a text an hour ago saying her husband had given notice. They were heading back to the States. I wasn’t surprised. Amy had been hinting at it for some time.

Amy and I thawing out on the train back from an evening at a mountain Christmas market.

Amy and I thawing out on the train after a nighttime mountain Christmas market.

But it has made me a little sad. Amy isn’t just the first gal pal I made here in Germany, but she also happens to be an awesome friend, and those are hard to find even when you’re surrounded by people who speak your language.

After what I wrote about patterns in our lives, it came as no surprise to read that I was dealing with my good friend Hannah moving back to the U.K. this same time last year. And in 2012, I was really focused on how I could be a good friend. My cousin had sent me a letter asking for advice and that excited me.

It shows me where I came from and how much I can help other people who came from the same place.

When I found out Amy was leaving, I thought, what can I do to be a better friend to those I already have? Send messages. Pray for them. Skype. Listen. Send encouraging words. Be there. Basically what I’d written about several years ago.

This is a pattern that will probably continue throughout my life because I have a bit of a nomadic nature, and I’m drawn to people who are similar. I’ve got friends in Minnesota, California, New Orleans, Ireland, England, Norway and Turkey.

Last year I wrote this:

I was asking the Universe last night, why can’t I have a bestie that sticks by me forever? and then I realized, DUH! I do! It’s Sante and we’re super lucky!

It’s true. When I told him I was bummed about Amy leaving, he replied by saying he understood, but to remember he would always be there for me. That lifted my heart and made me smile.

But there’s something new in 2014. Something I’ve just realized. There is someone who will never leave me, someone that gets me completely. Someone that can relate and love me and let me be me.

And it’s me. I am my own best friend. Over the years I’ve been learning how to treat myself better, and now that I see myself in that light, I think it’s going to be that much easier.

What can you do to be a better friend to yourself?

There is someone who will never leave me, someone that gets me completely. Someone that can relate and love me and let me be me.  And it's me. I am my own best friend.

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Arwa January 20, 2014 at 4:23 am

I have always believed in that. I always tell myself I am my best friend because I am the only one that knows where I come from, what I really like and dislike and how much certain things matter. Friends and family are such amazing blesses but unless you befriend yourself all their presence won’t matter. I relate with what you wrote and I guess one of the main purposes of life is to build that friendship with yourself because it is the only place that you truly belong. It is much like what Jim Rohn explained when he said “take care of your body. It is the only place you have to live.” Now how to be a better friend with yourself, I guess by treating yourself as you would treat a good friend and foremost to accept and love yourself unconditionally because you are the best person to do so.

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Rebecca A. Watson January 23, 2014 at 6:34 am

Thanks for your comment Arwa 🙂 And it’s so true we are the perfect ones to love ourselves unconditionally. Now just a matter of trying!

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Lilly January 20, 2014 at 1:30 pm

Wow, it’s weird/cool to read this by you today because I swear to god I woke up this morning thinking, after self-flagellating for a bit, about one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received: “You have to be your own best friend.”

And you are an awesome friend and person for thinking not just, ‘what does this mean for me’ but ‘how can I be a better friend to them’. Yay you. xx

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Rebecca A. Watson January 23, 2014 at 6:33 am

That’s so cool that you had that thought this morning! It makes me smile that even across the oceans we can have such similar experiences 🙂 It’s true…and as Arwa is saying, we’ve got to love ourselves unconditionally. I hope you’re doing well and being your own best friend lady. Hugs!

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