Monday Morning Pages: Gimme Some (Self) Lovin’

by Rebecca A. Watson on February 10, 2014

in change, compliments, habits, love, Monday Morning Pages

So, Valentine’s Day is coming up soon, which Sante brought up to me with a very serious concern. He’s taking this month off of sugar to see if that helps his immune system/allergy problems at all. (Sidenote here: I’m super-impressed. I was going to do it with him and lasted a whole 12 hours maybe.) He wondered to me: How will we celebrate Valentines Day without sweets?

Of course, we can be sweet to each other and everything, but there really is no substitute for something sweet: candy, cake, chocolate, even fruit is tough to replace.

raspberry chocolate cake

And there’s certainly no substitute for cake *and* fruit.

While I was going through my journal from 2012, I noticed that I tended to give myself a lot of compliments and encouragement while I was writing. When I read it, I kind of wanted to roll my eyes. Like, really? Am I that cheeseball?

Here’s a sampling from 2012 (remember I often talk to myself like I’m another person):

Life is good and I’m working on being a more whole person. You are rocking it!

It’s time to stand up for yourself and that”s what you did! I am so proud of you.

You are so good at your job — you are so good at life!

Don’t be too hard on yourself and try to have some fun!

But then I read my journal from 2013 as well as my self-love letter I wrote last year and realized that it is something I have to force a little bit. There is only one mildly encouraging sentence in this week from 2013:

Keep doing what you’re doing and all will be well.

Contrast that with 2012 and I really haven’t been keeping up the self-love that well. Especially if I’m rolling my eyes at it right now. One thing I noticed that I did then that I’m not doing now is writing five good things about myself every day. Maybe I’ll start doing that. Perhaps enroll in Tanya’s free February virtual class. Or maybe I’ll spend some time with Gala Darling’s Radical Self Love project.

radical self love warrior

All I know is that while I’ve been telling all my friends and penpals I know to be kind to themselves, I’ve been a shorting myself. My therapist told me how impressed she was with the work I’d done and that I should be too.

It felt weird to compliment myself. Like I was being vain or something. Even writing out those sentences above from my journal made me cringe to share. This, my friends, has got to change. Loving myself and good self-esteem are crucial to life success and general awesomeness.

Are you encouraging and complimentary to yourself? If so, is it natural or do you have to remind yourself to do it? What tools do you use to improve your self-esteem?

And just for good measure, here’s a young Steve Winwood to brighten your Monday.

Wondering what this Monday Morning Pages thing is all about? Read how it started. Or check out all the archives.

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