The Magic of Blogging (& Sharing)

by Rebecca A. Watson on April 25, 2014

in balance, change, habits, optimism

Ever since I wrote awhile back my confession of being a pessimistic optimist, I’ve felt a shift. It took awhile, but I started to blog like no one was reading, without censoring myself or worrying about what other people who may or may not read this blog might think.

Sometimes I felt like I was being a really downer, but I kept on, writing my truth as it was in the moment. Not easy for me, but well, all good things are worth being a little uncomfortable and working for. I read this meditation this week and it made me feel less like a bummer.

disease of attitudes meditation

And as I have stopped forcing positivity on top of negativity, I’ve discovered something: My blog is magical. In terms of helping me process and let go of crap I’ve been working on getting rid of for years, it’s some sort of sorcery. Let me just fill you in with a few examples.

I’ve been seeing a therapist for years because I was sexually abused when I was a child. Well, let’s be real here, I saw her for a lot of reasons, but that was one of the biggest ones.

Week after week we would hash out plans to work through this crap and get to the point where I could forgive and move on. I read books. I prayed. I meditated. I know all this because I also journaled about it, and I’m reading through those experiences as well.

But interestingly, once I decided to open up and blog about it, well that’s when things started loosening up. And this morning when a trigger came up, I realized that I’ve forgiven the person, that I’m not angry anymore and life is much more sweet. Who was it that said being angry at someone was like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die? Oh right, Buddha.

drink me

No thanks.

Or what about my inability to sit still while I’m sick or needing to rest? I blog about both of those things and a few weeks (!) later I am actually taking care of myself, whether it’s taking an extra day to post my weekly morning pages article or just laying on the couch Tuesday watching the Lord of the Rings trilogy in its entirety because I was feeling ill.

But maybe it isn’t just my blog that is magical. Maybe it’s blogging in general that’s so great — letting people in on your problems, being open. Because after plaguing me for years, all it took was one guest post about my divorce(s) for that shame to just dissipate like smoke from a blown-out candle.

Obviously for me this took some work. I wrote this blog for several (five!) years without really being honest about what I’m struggling with. And to be sure, there are still things I don’t write about, mostly because I’m not ready to get all that public with every part of my life.

Is she saving or sinking the boat?

An adaptation of the glass half full question: Is she saving or sinking the boat?

I will say that I think this magic works without the blogging. You don’t need to open your life up on the world wild web. I think the key is sharing your problems, letting people into your world. We are more alike than we think, and sometimes just opening up is all it takes to let go of an issue that has been in our brain purgatory for years.

We were taught to share as children. We had different toys and games that others might enjoy. As adults, we have different skills, coping mechanisms, ideas and healthy habits that benefit others. But if the people around you don’t know you’re lacking and would like some of their help, how will we know to come to their aid?

A lot of the help I’ve gotten has been through emails, comments and just chats offline with some folks I truly love. I’ve never been very good at opening up, so this blog helps me learn to share. I hope you’ll try it too. Trust me, it’s magical.

Photo Credit: Tao Zero, Sofi

 

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Momma Bee April 25, 2014 at 7:19 pm

Rebecca~ I think you really hit something home w/ me here…. your right, it doesn’t matter which form (blogs, media, therapy, in person conversations) we use to share. When we are honest and share how we really think and feel, w/o censorship, it is only then we can be free and onto the recovery we are seeking. It usually not easy at all but so worth it in the end~ thanks for your post today! B.

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Rebecca A. Watson April 28, 2014 at 12:21 pm

So glad it resonated with you. You’re right…not easy, but yes, SO amazing to actually heal! Hugs to you!

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Momma Bee April 25, 2014 at 7:24 pm

PS… what daily book is this from? If you do’t mind me asking.

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Rebecca A. Watson April 28, 2014 at 12:20 pm

It’s called Daily Affirmations for Forgiving and Moving On. I link to it on my Resources Page.

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Primrose April 26, 2014 at 8:02 am

great post, Rebecca. quite agree on the magic of sharing. and another benefit, as you have seen yourself, is that you are also sharing with your future self. who can go back and re-read what you have written and learn from it afresh. now, that’s pretty amazing, too.

by the way, first read this post on my iPhone. when I do that, the photograph of your meditation displays upside down… which I thought was so cool given that it was about turning it over 🙂 xxx

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Rebecca A. Watson April 28, 2014 at 12:23 pm

Yes! The sharing with your future self is SO HUGE! I love that you pointed that out. Thank you! And yeah, I noticed that in the email that I sent out to subscribers the photo was upside down. Very weird, but I like your take on it 🙂 Turn it over 😉

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