MMP: Making Our Own Harmonies

by Rebecca A. Watson on September 22, 2014

in Monday Morning Pages, Values

When I was in Minnesota, a friend and I had several conversations about how words are one thing, but actions are another. There were a few people I ran into who were still spouting the same stuff, five years later, but hadn’t made much of an effort in their actions.

It made me sad. There was just a lot of what I called “The Same.”

minneapolis river boat

I’ve been there. I had the same haircut for years.

Actions do indeed speak louder than words. It’s a cliché for a reason, my friends.

A few years ago I was given a book by Suze Orman about managing money for women. It named harmony as one of the values a wealthy woman has. I wasn’t quite sure what that meant, that’s how foreign and new the concept was for me.

From my morning pages earlier this week:

Harmony — when your thoughts match your words and your words match your actions. Either I’d never been introduced to it OR if I had I certainly hadn’t internalized it. Difficult at first, and still working on it really. That would be where being impeccable with my word and changing my vocabulary come in right now, as well as speaking up for myself.

All of those people I met in Minnesota had the same energy: The Same. Exhausted from spinning their wheels. Their words sounded emptier than I remember before.

Maybe it’s because I’ve changed that I noticed or maybe it’s because five years have gone by and those words, which at one point had so much passion and enthusiasm behind them, had become as routine for them as their commute to work.

Not matching their actions to them was slowly draining them, aging them. I left each exchange a bit sad for them, wishing I could help them somehow. But I think the only thing I can do is write about harmony and how valuable it is to our souls.

It keeps us vital, acting in a way that matches what our hearts are saying. It conserves our energy, when we stop confusing our bodies and minds by saying one thing and doing another.

Me: I want you to respect me.

And then I go drink to blackout and wake up god knows where.

That’s a recipe for exhaustion, for depleting our life force. So the more you can combine forces — magic of words, actions of body and spirit of the heart — the more quickly life’ll move in a direction you want.

I know this to be true: Stop drinking (something I’d been thinking about for, to understate it, a long time) and two months later a dream I’ve been chasing for five years shows up.

Make amends to a few folks I said I would, and the Universe gives me the opportunity to clean up years of karmic sludge in an afternoon. This way of life, this value becomes more valuable every time I consider it.

What do you think about harmony? Do you match your actions to your words?

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{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Bob September 23, 2014 at 2:34 am

Another great article! We are in harmony!
I have been sober 3 weeks Wednesday and that is the longest in 40 years! We are in harmony.
Thanks Life Coach


Rebecca A. Watson September 25, 2014 at 7:57 pm

Hey Bob! Thanks for the comment 🙂 And happy to hear you’re sober 3 weeks! Hoorah! Enjoy it.


Monica October 10, 2014 at 4:08 pm

Very interesting question. For me, I beat the holy living hell out of myself for my lack of congruity of my actions to my words. I believe you were witness to the beginning of this phase, many many years back. I purposely surrounded myself with people who would hurt me because I loathed myself for going completely against what I professed to be right and wrong. It finally hit me (I’m a slow learner), that maybe if I didn’t judge things as being right or wrong, correct or incorrect, good or bad, I wouldn’t lose, and neither would anyone else in my life. It’s simply what works and what doesn’t. Now, I’m not saying Hitler was merely an out-of-the-box thinker and Bin Laden was an eccentric. Obviously, these people did horrible things, but I’m more concerned with why things are how they are and how I can prevent them in the future, and I guess that calls for a level of admission to oneself. That, for me, is always the challenge…to not sugar coat it and keep it real! Much love xoxo


Rebecca A. Watson October 17, 2014 at 6:37 pm

NOT judge things as right or wrong? Duuuuuude that is pretty frickin’ difficult for a girl like me, growing up in the hellfire n brimstone Baptist world I did. BUT i agree. I think it’s a great way to live. Baby steps tho, right? xoxox


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